Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Luck Number Seven {times two}!

My Babies Are SEVEN!!

My little ladies turned seven last week! It's cliche, but I cannot believe it. As we did at age five and six, we interviewed them to check out how they've changed...and have stayed the same. 

Check out their answers this year!


Nickname - Lyla Bear
How old are you? Seven
What is your favorite color? Pink
What is your favorite animal? Monkey!
What is your favorite book? Barbie and the Secret Door
What is your favorite TV show? Sophia
What is your favorite movie? Ariel (aka The Little Mermaid)
What is your favorite song? Shake it Off
What is your favorite food? Steak
What is your favorite drink? Hot Chocolate
What is your favorite breakfast food? Eggs & sausage
What is your favorite snack? cheese stick
What is your favorite outfit? a skirt and a short-sleeve shirt
What is your favorite game? Simon Says
What is your favorite toy? Kitty
Who is your best friend? Eve & Addie & Natalee
What is your favorite thing to do? Watch TV
What is your favorite thing to do outside? Play on the swing
What is your favorite holiday? Christmas
What do you like to take to bed with you at night? American Girl doll
Where is your favorite place to go? Celebration Station
What is favorite restaurant? Ted's
Where do you want to go on vacation? Disney World
What do you to be when you grow up? A teacher
What did you do on your birthday? went to the Devon Tower




Nickname - Nat
How old are you? Seven
What is your favorite color? Purple
What is your favorite animal? a monkey
What is your favorite book? the Princess Book
What is your favorite TV show? Sophia
What is your favorite movie? Goofy
What is your favorite song? How Great Thou Art
What is your favorite food? Lasagna
What is your favorite drink? Lemonade
What is your favorite breakfast food? Pancakes
What is your favorite snack? cheese stick
What is your favorite outfit? The striped dress
What is your favorite game? Sorry!
What is your favorite toy? The doll
Who is your best friend? Scarlett
What is your favorite thing to do? Play outside
What is your favorite thing to do outside? Play on the swing
What is your favorite holiday? Christmas
What do you like to take to bed with you at night? My purple doggie
Where is your favorite place to go? Chuck E Cheese
What is favorite restaurant? Okie's
Where do you want to go on vacation? DisneyLand
What do you to be when you grow up? A teacher
What did you do on your birthday? Went to the Devon Tower

I love my girls. I love their answers. I love being their mom. Basically, I'm the luckiest momma in the world.

Monday, January 19, 2015

Life, Death, & Peace


It's been a while. I need to decide if blogging is something I want to make a regular habit. It has been an overall good exercise for me. I just have not made it a priority of late.

My grandpa died on Veteran's Day. His death was something we were somewhat prepared for. As prepared as you can be with 6 days' notice. In the blink of an eye your life can change. His life ended. Just like that. At 78 years old, my grandpa had lived a long, hard, full life. He struggled so much, in many aspects. I like to think that death brought him peace that he hadn't known in a long, long time.

Honestly, those of us who loved him and knew him so well, understood that he would keep going - to work that is - until he was physically unable to continue. That is exactly what happened. He kept going, until he couldn't. Hard work. He worked so hard. Mostly because that was who he was - a hard worker. Partly because if he didn't work - he wouldn't know what to do with himself. Partly because he could not afford to stop working. Daily he was in pain. Daily he went to work.

I had the absolute honor to be by his side for not only his final 6 days, but his final hours, minutes, seconds, and his last breath. What peace filled that room as my precious grandpa passed on to be with Jesus. With tears rolling down my face I smiled. He was at peace. He was with Jesus. He was with his bride. I really, really miss him, and will continue to as years go by, but it was his time. I know it. In his final moments, I decided to turn on some of his favorite tunes. George Jones played, a few other country singers, and then Johnny Cash - "Ghost Riders in the Sky." I guess he didn't care for Johnny Cash because as that song came on, he started to go. It was so surreal. So slow yet so fast. Indescribable. To be with someone during their final moments - what a blessing.

At his service I spoke. I remember after my grandma died, I knew immediately I wanted to speak at her funeral. I was terrified but I felt called to speak. I was an emotional wreck but I made it through somehow. Secretly, I thought to myself, "When grandpa dies, what will I say at his funeral?" I truly had no idea. I did not feel like I knew him as well as I knew her. Oh my, was I wrong. It's amazing what you learn from someone without even knowing it. He had such an impact on my life - how could I be so silly to wonder what I would say? The words came to me as I knew they would. Here is what was on my mind after he left us and what I shared at the service:

I cannot even begin to describe the impact this man had on so many lives. Each of you has a personal story of how my grandpa impacted you. To you he may have been dad, grandpa, brother, uncle, friend, or just "Mr. Bob." Whomever he was to you, I think we can all agree on one thing that made this man so special. It was his heart. So many people have reached out to our family to speak about what he meant to them. The comments about his generosity, his kindness, his friendliness...it all boils down to his heart. He was not glamorous, not fussy, but is someone that people respected. He was someone special to a lot of folks. That I know for sure and you all know it too.

So, who was he to us? My grandpa was one of a kind. They truly don't make men like him anymore. He influenced my life in more ways than one. The pictures of him in my head obviously have evolved over the years. In my younger days, I remember he and my grandma always having such a good time together. Whether at home, at the store, at the lake, or anywhere else in between - he was having a good time and oftentimes the life of the party. He gave me my first job around age 10 or 11. I would work at the meat market cash register every Saturday. As I grew older, I would work down there every day during the summer. He taught me how to count change, organize the stock, and how to treat customers. Good work ethic - a phrase that doesn't even begin to describe him - he taught us all that. As time went by he was a constant in my life. Seeing and visiting him recharged me. After my baby girls were born, visiting him as often as possible was a necessity for me. His family recharged him. One of his favorite things to do was to gather together as a family and enjoy a meal together. He'd often be sad to see us go.

We are most definitely incredibly sad to see him go. But, as those of us who know him so well understood - when he was ready to go, he was on his way to the door with his hat and coat on before you could even protest. He must have been ready to go. We weren't ready but he sure was. I know I can speak for each member of my family when I say, there truly will never be another man quite like Bob Whittenberg. Thank you so much for joining us as we honor and remember the most kind, generous, hard-working, loving man we know.


I did not do him justice. I could have spoken for hours on end and not done him justice. I did what I could at the time and held myself together surprisingly well.
I have grown so much over the past 18 months. I now look for ways I can learn from most every situation in my life. What can I learn from my grandpa's passing? Here are a couple of thoughts:
  1. Hard work. Nothing beats it. Out work everyone around you and you will stand out. Not only as a great employee but someone who deserves respect.
  2. Family. This part is interesting. Of course family is important. I have family members who intentionally choose to not have anything to do with their children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. I don't understand that. I never will. My grandpa was not like that. Family was important. He was so quiet about the love he had for his family but it was there and we felt it. He so enjoyed the company of loved ones. My family has it's share of drama but they're mine and it's our drama. I'll take the good with the bad and work to make sure we have more good days than bad. I'm grabbing hold of the memories and working to create new ones. How do we move forward with our lives while continuing to honor the memories of those who have gone before us?
  3. Planning. The death of a loved one does something to your brain. It starts making you think about your own mortality. Something that is frequently on my mind is "What would happen to my immediate family, financially, if something happened to me?" Would they survive? Would my husband be able to pick up where I left off and ensure that my babies have the wonderfully comfortable future that we have planned for them? It scares me to death thinking of not being here for any part of their future. If I learned anything, I need to plan more effectively. Especially from a financial perspective.
My goal is to become better. I am in a constant state of looking for ways to improve. How do I become a better follower of Christ, a better wife, a more patient and loving mother, a more effective employee, a more understanding daughter, a better friend, a better person? Purpose. Intentional focus. That's the first step. Decide to do better and then be better. The person I am one year from today should be a better version of the person I am today. How do I do that? How will you do that? How do you intentionally focus on becoming a better person each day?
Today I am focusing on life. Humbled by death. In search of peace. I'm not there yet but I'll get there. I know I will.